The problem is that we're trying to mate a part made by Lotus to an aftermarket part made by another company with a different jig (i.e. Milltek and GRP). I'm sure the Milltek delete pipe mates perfectly with their OWN exhaust, and similar with GRPs.
The small variances in manufacturing will have an affect, so personally, I would opt for the smaller opening and use shims if needed, vs risking the cat delete pipe being too large and then having to mess with expanding the stock exhaust.
Both pipes work...but both may have issues mating while other's may not experience any issues. The GRP is almost $100 cheaper for the EXACT same pipe. It's just a hollow bent pipe. That's why I went with the GRP version and just used two shims which cost me another $4 from Amazon. I didn't even bother with a pipe expander...